The Orgasmic and Spiritual Enlightenment. The ultimate goal in Tantra is to attain enlightenment "with the eyes open". Tantra has been described as a spiritual path for the householder. It is known most for the fact that this path includes sexuality, and spirit is found through embracing sexuality rather than through suppression of sexuality.
Tantric mystics felt that if a force as powerful as sexuality was banned or repressed in outward expression, then it was bound to surface as part of the dark side of our character, emerging in such a way as to cause suffering for ourselves or others. Tantra is a discipline and a body of practices which makes sex sacred, using sexual energy to increase, improve, expand, explore and enjoy one's spirituality. Tantric sex is about appreciation — the appreciation that we are with is a manifestation of divine energy and that our sexuality can become fuller vehicles for intimacy, self-knowledge, and spiritual evolution.
The Hindus believed that the creation of the universe was an erotic act of love between the god Shiva and his consort Shakti. Shiva was worshiped as the embodiment of pure consciousness in its most ecstatic state, and Shakti as the embodiment of pure energy. They also believed that the joyful dance between Shiva and Shakti is reflected in all living beings and manifests itself as pleasure, beauty, and happiness. This is the nature of the divine, the root of all that exists. Sexual ecstasy was seen as a taste of this divine nature in human form. Women who practice Tantra also learn how to be in their rightful power. They remember who they are as creators, nurturers and stabilizers. Some women need to learn to surrender and receive in order to relinquish their control issues and this takes them home to their empowerment. For other women, the path is opposite — learning to take more control of what is rightfully their responsibility.
In Sanskrit, the word for vagina is yoni, which means sacred space. It would be wonderful if both men and women started thinking of the vagina as a sacred space where one asks permission to enter and enters with reverence. The Sanskrit word for penis is lingam, which means a magic wand. Tantrikas use these terms because they sound much more reverent and romantic than the medical or slang terms we commonly use for the genitals in modern culture. Many women are now reclaiming their feminine power through the ability to ejaculate. A woman's ejaculate is called amrita or the Nectar of the Gods. Ordinary sex, to a tantrika, is like music played without the main instrument. It might begin beautifully but it ends up being a flat experience. Something is missing. In ordinary sex what is usually missing is the body. We need to learn to amplify our arousal and redistribute sexual energy from the genitals to the entire body. Then sexual orgasm becomes more than just a genital affair or a convenient way of going to sleep. It becomes a healing pathway. So if orgasm is either similar to a sneeze or sudden stillness, causing the loss of control or of our ego, or if orgasm is 95% similar to a heroin trip – the theory that orgasm is actually an ecstasy-like experience becomes more and more real. To conclude it finally I believe that the fear of orgasm, because we fear to lose our ego and that’s eventually one of the big spiritual tests in many traditions. Might be one reason why some cannot orgasm?! But what I do know is that the orgasms is the way to Spiritual path and confirms, it’s a unexplored transcendent experience.